Top 5 Rules for Speaking to Yourself.

Although I am a prime example of a person that goes around literally talking to themselves, I am aware that speaking aloud to oneself can garner some crazy looks from others.  So I do try to watch how much I do it in public. LOL!!

You might have more self-control than I do regarding this, but I can guarantee, that throughout the day, you have a steady stream of thoughts infiltrating your day.  Some of these are good and empowering, some.. not so much.

The good thing is that YOU and only you have the power to change your thoughts, so you can stop tearing yourself down and start empowering the crap out of YOU!

Here are a few "rules" to follow when talking to oneself in order to empower and not belittle.

1.  Talk to you as if you are talking to a friend!  If you wouldn't say it them, you shouldn't say it to you.  Even if no one else can hear it.

2.  Be careful how you are defining yourself.  What words follow "I am" in your head?? I did a whole post on the importance of these words.

3. Be gentle with yourself.  Yes you do things that aren't the most amazing at times, but repeatedly going over and over them with you isn't going to change the situation.  Analyze it, make a goal to do better, and release!

4.  Tell yourself you are the shizz.. even if you don't believe it right now.  Because if you tell yourself enough.. you will start to believe it.

5.  Be mindful of what you are allowing to make you feel "good" or "bad."  The top one I hear from women is regarding food.  They are "bad" for eating ice cream and "good" for eating kale.  Stop. Just stop.  Food is nourishment, it does not define you as good or bad.  Choose healthy, whole foods most of the time and allow yourself treats without feeling bad about you.

Do you find that you tear yourself down in your own head?  In your thoughts?  In the only place in the world YOU have total control over??  What do you do to stop yourself?  Give me your tips in the comments.

The Power of "I am"

The words "I am" are the two of the most powerful words in the English language.

You see, after those two words, comes the things with which we define ourselves.  What we sincerely believe ourselves to be.  And words, my friends, thoughts, become things.

How do you talk to yourself?  Are you kind?  Are you loving?  Are you gentle?

Do you speak to yourself as you would speak to a friend or family member?

Unfortunately, for many of us, we just aren't.  We are quick to criticize ourselves.  To call ourselves fat, or ugly, or stupid... or just generally not "enough."

I get it.  I've been there.  I've been the girl who always thought her friends were better than her. Prettier, smarter, thinner, more "put together"..  generally just what I thought I wasn't.

And wished I could be.

I am the same person now.  The same "pretty," the same "smart," the same ME...

But I have learned to change my mindset.  To stop judging myself against the standards of others.  To see that being me is the best person to be.  And for everyone else, being them is who they need to be.. and it has nothing to do with me. ;)

It is freeing to adopt this mindset.

And difficult.

It requires work.

It requires a conscience effort to change your thoughts..  To be INTENTIONAL about what is going on in your own head.

Diving into those personal development books that seem to get a bad rap.. or at least an eyeroll from many...  can help you do this.  You might not think they are for you..  but why the heck not try to grow yourself!?  Try to be a better version of you and learn to accept and love yourself as you are??  Personal development is a multi million dollar industry.. I am CERTAIN there is a book, most likely many, that could help you.

Starting to do the things you thought you couldn't, but really wanted deep down inside.  And starting to become proud of yourself.

Let's be honest ladies..  only good things can come from learning to feel good about yourself.  So I challenge you today.. Take notice of your thoughts..  Take notice of those words that follow the "I am" in your brain...  Write them down.  Make a list.  And then go back and see how you are treating you..  and make the effort to flip them to the positive.  Make them loving.

I promise ladies.. YOU ARE worth the effort.

<3

Crockpot Cheesy Chicken Taco Filling

Omg you guys.. I realize this isn't the greatest pic but this stuff is sooo good!!!

A couple boneless/skinless chicken breasts
About 2 cups of salsa
1 packet of taco seasoning
1 can corn (drained)
1 can black beans (drained and rinsed)
1/2 Brick of cream cheese

Throw all in crock pot (my chicken was frozen). Cook on high for 4 hours. Shred chicken. Eat in a whole wheat wrap.

I realize it's not the cleanest.. but it's sooooo good!!!! And so easy. And mostly all healthy. So it meets all the requirements for me! ❤️

the countdown is on!!!!

This is starting to get REAL!!!  The countdown is only 4 weeks and then it's happening...  I can't even believe it.. 

You see last summer..  I watched on Facebook while my now close friend Andrea enjoyed a trip first to Miami, and the to Nashville with her amazing team and overall just freaking sparkling group of friends.

 

I was drawn in by their light, by their passion and purpose and the freaking FUN they were having and I wanted to be in that club.  I wanted to surround myself with those kind of people.  And I wanted the opportunity to build my own tribe in the process.

So shortly after she returned from her trip I reached out to Andrea and became a coach..  

And now in just FOUR WEEKS Y'ALL I'm going to New Orleans to attend my first coach summit!!!!!!!  As a member of the team, as a coach that helps women feel happy and healthy and empowered and sexy again!!  I'm going to NOLA to hang with my tribe!! And learn sooo much that will help me to be a better coach for others... 

You see, I didn't join to lose weight.  (Mind blown.. 💥💥💥) I joined to be part of something that would make me a better person and would enrich my life.  Losing weight is the side effect of doing the things that make you the happiest version of yourself there is! 

And I get to show other ladies how to do that!!!!!!!  I can help you, if you are ready...  and if you want to part of the  club like I did...  there's always room For more!!  Reach out!